Welcome to the thunder-dome! Oh, wait…it’s just Life. You can enter here:
There are some requirements to accomplish before you can leave, that is to love as much as you can, create as much as you can, grow as much as you can, and experience as much as you can, if you can fulfill all four areas, then you have lived a full and grand life.
What are your thoughts on that?
For me, I get incredibly overwhelmed, but also incredibly excited at the thought of having to play multiple roles in my life. I am a daughter, sister, niece, cousin, blogger, digital marketer, student, philosopher, and most importantly a child of God. Those are the roles I play now, not including the roles that I’ll hopefully play in the future: wife, mother, godmother, aunt, grandmother, activist, innovator, and entrepreneur.
With all these roles to play, isn’t it easy to lose sight of ourselves? I mean, I am 23 here (I’m not the beacon of all wisdom!). So, I’m asking you, the intelligent and thoughtful readers, how do you handle the roles you must play in life? Do you have a lot? Do you only have a couple? How do you balance it all?
While, this may sound strange that I’m asking you these questions, it all started yesterday, when I hung out my with my cousin. We asked each other the usual, you know, “How are you doing? How’s your job search? How’s school?” and then we got to this question,” How’s your love life?”
I couldn’t answer.
I literally couldn’t answer whether I liked it or disliked it. I had no answer, because I just haven’t been thinking about it. At ALL! That moment made me realise that my life has been very narrow focused as of lately. I wake up and think about my career. I go to bed and think about my career, and so the cycle continues.
I don’t know whether this is a good thing, or if I’m missing out on something. But, when I really sit with myself and go deep into the my heart’s center, I feel as if there is more. More to what I am just experiencing right now.
Life, in my opinion, is a delicate dance of balancing. I feel most off-kiltered when I’m missing out on certain aspects of myself, because I’ve only been focusing on one. I think it’s an act of having faith and learning to trust that what is for me will find me, I just have to be prepared for it. I don’t have to search under every rock, run around madly, and demand the heavens for my due share. It’s here. I just have to accept it.
There so much to be offered in this lifetime and we do a great disservice to ourselves when we focus squarely on one aspect, all the while, ignoring the other aspects. We don’t have to put in so much effort to the roles that we play in life, since they are already ours. For the mother’s out there, you are a great mother, stop beating yourself up for every “mistake. The career women out there, you are talented and have gifts and strengths that other people don’t have, capitalize on those strengths, and stop trying so hard to please other people. For my fellow young 20-somethings who have no clue what is next, trust, trust that everything is going to work out as it should and that these moments of “What the heck!?” are going to happen A LOT! (I should know all my 30+ friends warned me.) Remember, none of us are going to make it out alive, so we might as well enjoy the journey.
I think I need to just be blunt: I have literally fallen head-over-heels with my career path, and that is why I think I got stumped by the love life question.
Like the Lady Gaga quote goes:
While I am deeply in love with my dreams and I will NEVER drop them for anyone, I have realised that I need to pause and live out my other roles as well. I want to live a full and grand life chock full of experiences, that includes love and spiritual paths too. When I sit with my future grand-children and tell them about my life, I want them to be inspired to live a multi-faceted and bright life of their own. Balance is the key.
Best of Love!